This is a good book. I learned a few things, and so did my girlfriend, but it's targeted at someone who is already curious about, and interested in participating in, anal sex. If you are hesitant about anal, haven't tried it, or are appeasing a boyfriend by reading it, then it's probably not going to do much for you. The author starts out, right off the bat, expressing how much she loves anal. She always loved anal, since she can remember, and she never had a problem getting into it. If you're having a problem getting into it then this book might make you feel ashamed, or uncomfortable, about the fact that you are hesitant to give/receive anal.