When your children are acting out and you feel like your going to lose it read a couple of pages from this book. No, your not a bad parent we all get into patterns of behavior and this book helps you to see a light at the end of the tunnel. It helped my husband and the grandma control situations that were starting to get us all tense. Now we all use the same approach and it has helped keep our family happier. The book has practical advice. Just remember to follow it.